When I set up an innovation agency in Athens in 2016, it was my 2nd company, but the 1st time building & leading a team of my own.
To my great surprise, I recognised my strengths and weaknesses within my team. It was painfully confronting to see, again & again, that my issues, were the team's issues. A lack of communication, team spirit, honest feedback and too much over-performing, pleasing, and competition, and so on..
I believe there are 3 ways to look at this:
1) It's not you, it's them. Bring on more rules & control!
2) It's an annoyingly painful mirror reminding you are not good enough. Leading to a spiral of victimising self-blame.
3) Or be bigger than your ego. It's a harsh, but insightful magnifying glass to point out what to work on within yourself.
Training & blaming my team or myself won't lead to lasting change. Only if I change & train the (often soft) skills I lack within myself, then I would see changes within my team.
Grateful to experience the power of doing, versus saying.
It's not about what you say. It's about what you do.
Most of all, it's about leading yourself first.